Dating advice getting nervous
Hey, 19 year old dude here, I'm rather socially active, I consider myself good or atleast ok looking, but I'm INCREDIBLY nervous around girls.
I'm not self conscious, I've been ok with who I am my entire life but this just seems like something that I can't control.
" Honestly, if you don't "grade" yourself in those ten minutes, you'll have calmed down and be even usually;6 - for goodness sake, get her talking about HERSELF. Don't have any expectations for the date other than learning more about this young woman and engaging in something pleasant (not sure what you are planning).
Once people are allowed to talk about themselves, they relax - if she's relaxed, you will too. When you meet her, play off her energy, engage her attention with conversation she might enjoy. For me at least, I just don't expect anything from it.
Just CONFIDENTLY expect an unmitigated disaster of a date Take a deep breath man. Make yourself believe that you're worth her time, and that she'd be privileged to deflower you. I find that while the questions can come off as boring, they usually naturally lead into a conversation about the topic.
It's because you're over thinking it man. The more you put yourself in the situation described above, the more comfortable you'll be. Idk about other girls but I don't mind if the guy honestly tells me he's nervous. I was worried on my first date with my current SO that we wouldn't have anything to talk about because we knew nothing about each other.
But seriously, you’re gonna get nervous about dates. Don't rattle these off, it's a tough date that needs them all ...
If you’re excited about the date and the prospect of finding that one and only someone you should be nervous to some degree. Channel it to let you be spontaneous and keep the energy up on your side. I’m a 30 yo male and I’ve forgotten more first dates that I was nervous for than most people I know have been on and that’s not a brag. they're leading, open-ended questions that should enable you to ask follow up questions, use them when you're stuck.
I couldn't tell If it makes you feel any better, they’re just as afraid of you as you are of them.Talking to my friends, it seems that most of us still get horribly nervous over a date, after all this could be THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE..... Rarely do I imagine that scary rest of my life scenario, because, it probably won't be and if it isn't, that's cool, I still have my hobbies and friends. I visibly shake on dates and get so nervous my old stutter comes out.